Making the Conscious Decision of Doing Nothing

Hi there,

I wanted to ask you this: When was the last time you made a conscious decision to make time for yourself to relax do nothing?

If a million thoughts ran through your mind reading this, like perhaps:

“Do nothing? I barely even have time to do this, this and that.”

Relax? I cannot relax, I have many deadlines to meet.”

….and probably many more, that I can’t think of.

That’s exactly the point I was trying to make. We all live at a crazy fast pace, sometimes barely even making it. The thing is, what is it that we’re running towards? Are we just constantly keeping ourselves busy just because that’s just how society is?

Let’s all take a moment to breathe.

I’ve recently attended a Mindfulness workshop and it made me realise how much we overwork, overthink and expect from others and ourselves. When things don’t go as planned, we tend to blame ourselves or others for the setbacks. Thoughts like “If only….” and “Why is this happening to me?”, often degrade us.

It got me thinking. Our mind is often in the past dwelling on mistakes or imagining what the future is like but what about the present? Why is it easier to find fault in ourselves instead of praising our efforts and achievements? Why be so harsh all the time?

It all starts with ourselves, to learn to be kind to ourselves by simply sitting still, being aware of the present moment. Doing nothing, just focussing on being – our breath, where we are, what we see, what we hear.

You’ll be surprised on how aware you’ll become of the most subtle things that were always there but not acknowledging it as much when we’re at full speed in life. Your mind will wander but once you realise that it’s wandering off, slowly bring it back to where you are now and focussing on being.

Slowing down and being kind to yourself once in a while. Breaking routine, going off auto-pilot mode and finding the things that will make you appreciate life more. Even if it’s only for 15 minutes at the start/middle/end of your day, will change your life drastically.

Go for a walk.
Read a book.
Write.
Listen to Music.
People watch.

It has only been a few days and I’ve learned to be kinder to myself, cutting down my to do lists and prioritising self-care. I’ve had time to read more, to journal, to blog, TO PRACTICE!! Now, I’m enjoying it more.

I realise that I tend to spend more time worrying on actually doing them and that causes me to be demotivated and procrastinate a lot.

Being aware and recognising what you’re feeling or thinking is the first step. It’s what you’ve to do to change that to make yourself more time and space. It’s unbelievable how vast the time and space we have once we’re in control.

Please reach out and do keep in touch!

Patricia

Exam Preparation Mindset: I’m Calm, I’m Ready & I Can Do This

Hi there,

As you all know I’ve a Piano Diploma Performance exam to prepare for and I’ve had a bit of a slump and panic last week. The constant worrying and overthinking, clouded mindset which prevented me from having an effective practice and focus during Piano lessons.

That’s all changed now! YAY! I’ve overcome that stage and now I’m in a calm phase before the performance. I’ve accepted that I am going to do this no matter what, so I might as well clear up my mind and approach this in a calm manner. (I hope to be as calm as my Piano teacher’s cat when the time comes! How cute is he?)

With a clearer mind, my practice sessions have been more productive and enjoyable. I have managed to run through my Piano Diploma programme twice now to work on my endurance. Still need to work on engaging with the pieces throughout but it’s getting there and I’m on the right track.

I’ve arranged to perform in front of some friends in my practice room to help me calm my nerves of performing in front of an audience which will benefit me for my exam. I am so grateful that they’re up for it! This is actually the first time I’m going to present my programme to my friends!

With only about a week left to the exam, I’d say I’m right where I’m supposed to be now. After 4 years, I’ve worked hard for this, I have prepared for this and now it’s time for me to do it! This is the best and most prepared I have been to date and I want to do this to the best of my ability – to enjoy performing and for the examiners and listeners to enjoy. I am excited!

Wish me all the best for it 🙂

~Patricia

Adulting: What Social Life?

Rare Social Life

Adulting.

Did the idea of adulting scare you? It definitely scares me. We’re out pursuing our own careers and soul searching – it feels like we’re thrown out into the deep end and that we have to figure it out for ourselves.

With the pressure from your peers, you see them getting married, having children, graduating and securing their first full-time jobs. Sometimes, you can’t help but feel left behind BUT never dwell on that.

All of us have different clocks, I have learned to accept that it’s okay to be where you are right now. This will teach us how to grow and mature. Our own experiences are unique and that’s what makes us different from one another.

Since we’re all busy with our schedules, it’s so difficult to find the right time to meet up for a catch up! That’s why for me, I have no social life. At work, I keep hearing about my colleagues’ plans for the weekend or the previous night and as for me, “What social life?”

The only social life I have is within the workplace, community and during teaching. Barely have one for leisure! I keep telling myself to make time and effort to meet up with others but you know how it is sometimes, plans never work out.

However, I’ve made time to finally catch up with some of my friends outside of work and the community. I missed having a social life so much, enjoying a good conversation while having lunch or dinner with delicious food – I’m a big fan of Japanese food and now, Korean.

These few people that I make time to meet up with are the friends I cherish the most. I’m so grateful for having friends like them, hearing about their progress in life inspires me as we’re all heading in the right direction of pursuing our dreams.

Adulting, I’m actually enjoying it. Keep striving and hang in there.

Much love,
Patricia

Performance Exam Preparation…. *sighs*

Hi guys,

I’m currently preparing for my ARSM (Associate of the Royal Schools of Music) Piano Performance Diploma Exam this April.

How’s it going? I’m losing hope….. motivation……. and patience………

This always happens a fortnight before my performances, I get a sudden dip in motivation and I don’t seem to connect with what I’m practicing. Every time you force yourself to practice, it does more harm than good as nothing really processes.

Fingers crossed, I will run through my programme before the actual exam date. At this rate, I don’t see it happening 😦

Help! I need to inspire myself in one way or another. 😦

Much love,

Patricia

Going Offline: Today’s a Gift

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.

Bil Keane (American Cartoonist)

Every time this quote comes across, it always makes me wonder. Whatever it is that I’m doing, this serves as a reminder to live with purpose and make the most out of each day. To invest time into things that really matter, instead of wasting it on social media and trivial things.

The Lent season made me focus on things that matter, to realign and review my priorities.

I recently gave a talk in the SFC community about Loving Your Neighbour. It is a challenging talk as I struggle to do so everyday. One thing that really stood out to me was how Loving God and Loving Your Neighbour can be showed on the cross.

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Love the Lord God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength.

Mark 12:30

On the cross, Loving God is written on the vertical axis. To always remember to lift everything up to him during our triumphs and failures, to pray and be grateful that God has given us this life for us to lead.

I give you a new commandment: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you should love one another.

John 13:34

When God created us, he gave us His unconditional love. We should learn to love one another and spread love even to those who are difficult to deal with as we are all created in His image. We’re all brothers and sisters in Christ. Like on the cross, Loving Neighbour is written on the horizontal axis, which is to be spread to everyone around us.

Recently, I had an epiphany. Love goes around, we need this. Why is it so difficult to love sometimes? Why do we put up a wall to hide our imperfections? Is the world that afraid to be true to themselves and be known and accepted for who they are?

I learned that hiding does not solve anything. In fact, it drains us. We should learn to be courageous to face our problems and struggles with the guidance of our Lord.

Today’s a gift, I have learned to be more understanding and forgiving as we only have one life to live. Wasting your time holding a grudge on someone or something is not worth it, it refrains you from experiencing true and sincere love. I always ask myself, “Will this matter in 10 years time?” If in the present moment it doesn’t, let it go and move on and if it will matter, fix it and forgive.

It’s easier said than done, but it all starts from within. Surrender and seek guidance from God and you’ll experience His unconditional love. I healed because of Him and I’m so grateful for that.

Make today filled with purpose as it’s a gift.
Let’s keep in touch.

Much love,
Patricia

Going Offline: Living in the Moment More

Throwback to the Collaborative Bridge Week Project in 2016 at the RCS

Hi guys,

Sorry I haven’t been keeping up with updates on my blog lately.

It’s the Lent period, so I’ve decided to go off Instagram and Twitter and focus more on my work. It’s a time of reflection for me and to get closer to God in prayer and community service. I’ve also cut down on sugary drinks and snacks as well as junk food so hopefully I’ll make it through!

Just a quick update:

  • I got into the Royal Conservatoire of Scotland! – I am absolutely over the moon and third time lucky! I’ll be starting this September in the Music Education (BEd) course there and I’m looking forward to it!
  • Taking part in a Digital Exchange Project – I will not say too much about this as it has only started but this is such an exciting (international) collaborative project.

I am so grateful for these blessings! Grateful to God for giving me the strength and perseverance to keep pursuing my dreams and for giving me a wonderful support group in my family, community, work and in the RCS.

I’ll keep you all posted! 🙂

-Patricia